MEN’S CONCERNS

Your Question

What is the average penis size? I have always wondered this, but have never received a straight answer.

My Answer

I’m not an expert, but I believe the average size is about 6 inches. I’m sure you must be a man because men are the only ones who seem to be concerned with the various sizes of the penis! Incidentally, most women are very happy with what is considered to be the “average” sized penis.

Hope this helps!

Your Question

I would like to input on premature ejaculation. I find that I cum very quickly the first time. I can regain an erection again within 10 minutes and then can perform for some time before cumming again. The first time is the problem. I need to prolong this. I am 38, active and in good shape physically. I have a very high sex drive and can and often do make love every day. I look forward to hearing from you.

My Answer

There is much information on how to delay ejaculation. And there are many good sexuality and self-help books that describe techniques to delay ejaculation as well. (Check out the advice of Dr. Michael Castleman) However, I must say that I don’t consider yours to be such a “problem”. I remember that one of my serious lovers of several years had the same pattern as you. He would come very quickly the first time around, be able to get an erection within a short amount of time and then be able to go for quite a long time. This worked out fine for us because we spent that time in between getting me off through oral or manual sex (and remember, most women, about two thirds, do not have orgasm through intercourse, but rather through oral or manual stimulation). I happen to enjoy a lot of intercourse after having an orgasm so it was perfect. It seems to me that yours is not so much a problem but just a pattern of timing that can easily be worked out between you and your partner. So many people think that sex must all be done and finished in one round ending with the man’s climax. Good lovemaking can and should encompass many different phases, peaks and valleys. Some hugging, kissing, oral sex, maybe some intercourse for a while. Then stopping and doing something else, maybe getting the woman off, maybe just relaxing for a few moments. Caressing. Then some more intercourse. There are so many varieties and ways to make love. Don’t get caught up in “goal oriented” sex. Work with your own individual pattern and see how it can work for both you and your partner. And have fun!

Hope this helps!

Your Question

I’m an uncircumcised male in his late twenties. Although I have never had any health problems as a result and enjoy a great sex life with my precious S/O, I’ve long held a desire to be circumcised. However, I’ve never mustered up the gumption because I’m afraid that if I get my dick snipped I’ll be unhappy with the results and regret it like a bad tattoo.

My question is, in the realm of your personal experience and from those of your friends, does circumcision make any difference for the man and his female sexual partner(s)? Do you, and the women you know, have a definite preference for circumcised or uncircumcised cocks? If so, why?

My Answer

To be brief and to the point…no. As far as I know, it makes absolutely no difference whether the man is circumcised or not. My ex-husband of nine years, a European, was not circumcised, as most European men are not, and there was absolutely no difference in his ability to enjoy sex or mine to enjoy him. And I have several other male friends who are also not circumcised and seem to have a very healthy and enjoyable sex life.

If you are still considering it, you should consult a reputable urologist. He or she can give you the pros and cons so that you can make an informed decision.

One more thing, in terms of women’s preference: I know that some women who may not be accustomed to seeing an uncircumcised penis might act surprised at first. But if a woman really cares for you, it makes absolutely no difference, and she might even grow to prefer it.

Hope this helps!

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